Forewarning: This post has diet talk, if you are triggered or uncomfortable with this topic, please keep that into consideration. Thank you.
Perhaps I may just be ranting here, but this issue has been eating me up for a long time. If you look at my twitter you will see that I am ranting about how certain individuals (in general, no one specific) are hypocritical when it comes to the fat acceptance movement. I want to open up about this on my blog because it is my blog, and there will be political/rant pieces like this from time to time.
I am in the body acceptance movement. In the fat acceptance movement, whatever that may be. Some of you may not be active in it, some of you may, but I identify myself as a fat activist. I love my fat body and I am happy with who I am (though who am I to kid, sometimes you have those moments of nervous breakdowns) and I do not judge anyone elses body and health because who am I to judge? Why would I want to do to someone what I wouldn't want someone else to do to me?
Anyways, the reason for this is because I'm so sick of seeing fat individuals who happen to lose weight or happen to "diet" get attacked because of their lifestyle choices. Of course I understand triggers, of course diet talk will trigger some people - especially those on their self-acceptance journey. Why is it that when people make lifestyle choices or they are visibly smaller (in photographs) it is okay to criticize them - why is it that people can just accuse others of "betraying the fat acceptance community"?
See, this is where my frustration comes in.
The moment someone loses weight, or decides to take a lifestyle change for themselves - they are attacked. Of course people have the right to feel betrayed - sure, but to attack and flame someone for their own life choices? Isn't that a bit hypocritical? Actually, a lot hypocritical?
As fat people, we are oppressed in society. I'm sure we have had those times where we have been judged, made fun of, gotten rude comments about our bodies or our lifestyles (fat = lazy and eats McDonalds all day, amirite?) or we have even gotten the whole 'concerned-for-your-health' spiel.
So why, why does someone who experience this kind of oppression think it is okay to rag on someone about what they do with their bodies? With their lives? I personally feel that it is not in ANYONES position to make criticisms or comments about what they do in life. I get comments on how I should live my life. I hate it. So why would I do this same kind of thing to someone who decided to do something with their lifestyle? I live my lifestyle and yeah, it's unhealthy I'm gonna admit it - and I hate it when people think that it's just a free pass to go give me their opinion... especially about my body, especially about how I live my life.
Besides, the reasons for this lifestyle change may be different. Situations are different. Some people might go on a diet because of their health. Some might suffer from depression or something that ruined their appetite - but that's their own business, right? It's none of our business. Just like the reasons why we are fat is none of anyone elses business, or anything to do with our bodies and our health. Some people are fat because of health problems, or lack of fitness, or lack of exercise, genetics - whatever - the point is, why does it matter why we come to make the choices we do - it's who we are, what we decide and it's no one has the right to pry into your personal life like that.
My point is it's not okay to go and rag on about someones lifestyle choices if YOU don't like being ragged on yourself! It's body policing. I don't like being body policed, so why should I go and body police someone elses body?
Another thing that frustrates me to no end is the whole, "Curvy is sexy! Fuck those skinny bitches!" (You've seen those ads). I get that the intention may be to empower curvy women, but why is it necessary to bring down people with different bodies? It's not okay. It's still body shaming and body policing.
I thought the body acceptance movement was supposed to accept all bodies of different sizes. Don't get me wrong, I love what the FA community has done to empower me... but to bring down others because it does not fit your "ideal" of "fat" or any other body (acting as if it were some club) is not right to me.
In short - why do things to others that you wouldn't want done to yourself?
Oh, and I do understand the whole issue of talking about diets and such on fatshion blogs and how we want to avoid this issue. I'm on the fence about this... it's the persons blog but at the same time, fatshion blogs are supposed to be a safe space for body acceptance.
Thoughts? Do you have any other frustrations towards the blogging community? Pet peeves? Any input would be great and I encourage discussion here.
Also, I am sorry about typos and such. I'm tired and I realise my English isn't the best.